By: Susanne Birgersdotter
As an entrepreneur, your time and energy needs to be laser-focused—you only have 24 hours in a day to try to grow your business, take care of family and friends, and find ways to regroup and re-energize. Toxic people are huge distractions and stress-inducers that you just don’t need in your life.
This came to my mind this week because one of my children has a friend who is truly toxic, and I was impressed that my son was mature enough to identify that and take action to cut this toxic person out of his life. If only I had been as mature at that age, I could have saved myself plenty of stress and misery dealing with the toxic people in my life.
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The point is: it’s never too late to divest yourself of anyone in your life who creates unnecessary issues, strife, and, worst of all, stress. And it’s especially important to protect your business from these people.
“People Inspire you, or they drain you—pick them wisely.”—Hans F. Hansen
See if you recognize any of the following descriptions of toxic people.
She always criticizes everything and anything she comes in contact with. Judgmental Jane always comes to a negative conclusion about something or someone before she even hears the facts—if she even hears the facts at all. She’s horrible at communicating, and your best bet is to steer well clear of Judgmental Jane because she’ll never change.
Envious Emma will never be happy about anything that anyone else has or can do, especially you. She can’t believe that it hasn’t happened to her or for her like it has for you, because frankly, she feels she’s much more deserving. Envious Emma will never be in your corner, so you’d be better off to leave her grousing in a corner.
Control Freak Francine
As a Type A personality, I feel like I can sometimes be a control freak. There’s a huge difference though between someone who likes to manage the things in her life and someone who will never listen to anyone else. Control Freak Francine knows with absolute certainty that there is only one way to get things done, and it’s her way. Your way is always wrong.
Don’t confuse Arrogant Ann’s attitude for confidence because she knows she’s better than anyone else in the room and can prove it. Just ask her. While this can be quite annoying in a personal setting, in a professional environment, it leads to a toxic workplace where employees don’t feel valued. Arrogant Ann should never be part of your organization.
Vickie the Victim
Even when all evidence points in her direction, Vickie the Victim will always blame someone else for her mistakes and errors. She’ll forever point the finger at coworkers when things happen in the office, so eliminating all these Vickies out of your business will be a wonderful boost of morale for your other employees.
Negative Nancy will suck all of the positive energy out of the office if she’s allowed to stay. You’ll never hear words of encouragement from a Negative Nancy and, in fact, she’ll only work to discredit and drag everyone around her down. Be supportive of your other employees, and weed out all the Negative Nancy’s from your staff.
Lynn the Liar
You’ll never know when Lynn is lying or telling the truth. To be successful in business, you need to surround yourself with people you can trust and count on. Lynn the Liar is not one. Do yourself a favor, and eliminate the Lying Lynn’s from your life and your business, and surround yourself with people you can count on in a clinch.
Gossiping Gina doesn’t know how to separate fact from fiction, so she spreads harmful and untruthful information about others. Feelings get hurt and enemies are made. Gossiping Gina spreads misinformation much like a cancer through your business, so you’re much better off without a gossiper on your staff.
Several years ago, I vowed to remove all toxic people from my life and my business. In truth, it was one of the best decisions I’ve made. I created a much better environment for me and my family and my company.
You’re only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with so be brave and let toxic people go.
My advice to you: Surround yourself with people who build you up. Discard the rest.